Let’s Be Honest…
I hear you — bit harsh, Di — but it’s true.
Most people wait until they’re completely overwhelmed before asking for help. Why?
- Because of the “British stiff upper lip”?
- Because you believe you have to be strong?
- Because someone once told you, “God doesn’t give you more than you can handle”?
When you’re on your knees, these sayings don’t help — they keep you stuck. You start asking:
“What’s wrong with me?”
“Why can’t I handle this?”
“Why am I not over it by now?”
Through my grief work, I’ve come to understand these patterns. But back then? I had no idea there was support “out there” for me.
My Personal Rock Bottom
Here’s a glimpse of what happened to me in just three years:
- My husband was diagnosed with a life-altering illness. We were told they couldn’t say how long he had left. We kept it to ourselves.
- I found out I was pregnant — and then miscarried.
- Our new business brought pressure, staff stress, and financial challenges.
- Our dream of working together meant spending more time apart.
- We had hospital appointments off-island.
- Our eldest son was diagnosed with dyslexia.
- A year later, our youngest was diagnosed with Crohn’s disease.
- Our beloved dog of 15 years — the reason we started our business — passed away.
- My horse of 32 years, who I’d had since I was 13, also died.
- A man from the garage where we bought our vans committed fraud, dragging us into legal battles.
All of that — in just three years.
It broke me.
The Turning Point: Miracles in Disguise
And then — miracles.
- My husband became a personal trainer to stay healthy and strong.
- I retrained in massage therapy — and everything began to shift.
But the real change came when I noticed something unexpected…
You Wear Your Stress
Clients were having emotional meltdowns on my massage table. The body stores stress — and it was showing up everywhere.
That’s when NLP Coaching (Neuro Linguistic Programming) crossed my path. That was 21 years ago — and it changed everything.
I started learning:
- How to set boundaries
- How to protect my energy
- How to listen deeply — and hold space for others without losing myself
And I started healing.
So… What Is a Coach?
A coach is someone who:
✅ Creates a safe, non-judgmental space
✅ Helps you explore your challenges
✅ Guides you to find your own solutions
✅ Gives you tools to shift mindset and behaviour
✅ Helps you uncover (and change!) limiting beliefs
A limiting belief is just a thought you keep thinking — until one day, you believe it’s true.
Can beliefs really change that easily?
Remember Father Christmas?
Exactly. You believed — until someone told you otherwise.
(Side note: Don’t mess with the fairies — Isle of Man joke!)
Why I Created Just Ask A Coach
Because coaching changed my life, I wanted to make it easier for others to access that kind of support.
Together with Jan Tinsley and Mario Riccardi, we built Just Ask A Coach — a platform where you can bring your issue and find someone who can help.
And now, we’re bringing that support in person…
🎉 Just Ask A Coach – Pop-Up Event 🎉
🗓 July 16–17, 2025
📍 Talbot Chambers, Athol Street
🕒 Drop-in times throughout both days
Come and meet our coaches.
Hear short, inspiring talks.
Experience what coaching really feels like — safely, without pressure.
Whether you’re struggling yourself, or want to better support your staff, team or family — this event is for you.
You Don’t Have to Wait for Rock Bottom
Coaching helps you feel empowered, grounded, and supported — before things fall apart.
I can’t wait to welcome you.
With warmth,
Di Parker
The Good Grief Coach